It has been one month already since we were married. So today, we reflect on the specialness of our day. Our incredible friend Benton became ordained and flew out for the weekend just to marry us. He truly gifted us the most beautiful ceremony, I will cherish and be thankful for that always. Following are our vows we wrote to each other, separately and in secret. I began writing vows to Dan long before we became engaged, in a little note on my phone. In our ceremony, Dan said his vows first, and as soon as he began, I started giggling as I choked up, realizing we had chosen the same things to shape our vows around. We really are two souls cut from the same cloth.
(Benton literally brought a thermos of hot water and mugs to serve us tea in our ceremony, as the chill winds whipped around us. We then got to laugh, as he realized he forgot the tea itself. It was such a thoughtful, beautiful sentiment, making our ceremony so uniquely us, something I value highly. Clutching that warm mug in my frozen hands as I received the vows of my love was bliss.)
It feels like just yesterday I was sitting in the parking lot of Thou Mayest waiting nervously to go inside and thinking, "What the hell am I doing?" And although it feels like yesterday, I feel that I've loved you for a lifetime already--and I cannot wait to love you for the rest of my life and beyond. Since that first night/morning I left your apartment, I knew I wanted to marry you. You were instantly my best friend and I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you. I had never met someone who I just clicked with like I did with you.
You've helped me see a whole new side of life. You bring a breath of fresh air to my life every single day. The amount of love, joy, and life that you and Aidric bring into my life is incomprehensible. I'm beyond thankful for you and Aidric -- and I cannot wait to build the life of our dreams together.
I promise to love you through all the highs and all the lows.
I vow that I will work everyday to earn your love.
I vow to always listen and hear your needs.
I vow to be the best husband, father, and person I possibly can.
I vow to work on and improve our love for the rest of our lives.
I vow to love you until the end of time.
I am so grateful to be marrying you, my best friend. Our first night spent together, sitting inches apart, both too shy to touch, we talked and told stories into the wee hours of the night. For every shared view and experience we realized we had, I thought to myself, "This is my best friend. I will love him. This is it." My life began that night.
You showed me what love is. You gave me experiences I've never had, the kind of love I didn't know truly existed outside of my wildest dreams. You came in when everyone else had left. You loved me, when I believed I was no longer worthy of love. You accepted and welcomed my one year old son into your life, and love him as your own. You took my heart as it had grown cold and hard, and breathed life back in to it with a vengeance. You are my once in a lifetime love.
I vow to be your home, your place of comfort and calmness.
I vow to encourage and believe in you, especially when you don't believe in yourself.
I vow to choose you every single day--even when it's hard, because we can do hard things.
I vow to love you at your worst, and in those moments, to remind you of who you are at your best.
I vow to commit to growing with you, to build our dreams into realities, together.
I vow to never lose sight of how rare, special, and true this love is.
I vow to never take your love and your goodness for granted.
I take you as my husband, without fear or uncertainity that this is the greatest decision of my life.