It has been one month already since we were married. So today, we reflect on the specialness of our day. Our incredible friend Benton became ordained and flew out for the weekend just to marry us. He truly gifted us the most beautiful ceremony, I will cherish and be thankful for that always. Following are our vows we wrote to each other, separately and in secret. I began writing vows to Dan long before we became engaged, in a little note on my phone. In our ceremony, Dan said his vows first, and as soon as he began, I started giggling as I choked up, realizing we had chosen the same things to shape our vows around. We really are two souls cut from the same cloth.
(Benton literally brought a thermos of hot water and mugs to serve us tea in our ceremony, as the chill winds whipped around us. We then got to laugh, as he realized he forgot the tea itself. It was such a thoughtful, beautiful sentiment, making our ceremony so uniquely us, something I value highly. Clutching that warm mug in my frozen hands as I received the vows of my love was bliss.)
It feels like just yesterday I was sitting in the parking lot of Thou Mayest waiting nervously to go inside and thinking, "What the hell am I doing?" And although it feels like yesterday, I feel that I've loved you for a lifetime already--and I cannot wait to love you for the rest of my life and beyond. Since that first night/morning I left your apartment, I knew I wanted to marry you. You were instantly my best friend and I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you. I had never met someone who I just clicked with like I did with you.
You've helped me see a whole new side of life. You bring a breath of fresh air to my life every single day. The amount of love, joy, and life that you and Aidric bring into my life is incomprehensible. I'm beyond thankful for you and Aidric -- and I cannot wait to build the life of our dreams together.
I promise to love you through all the highs and all the lows.
I vow that I will work everyday to earn your love.
I vow to always listen and hear your needs.
I vow to be the best husband, father, and person I possibly can.
I vow to work on and improve our love for the rest of our lives.
I vow to love you until the end of time.
I am so grateful to be marrying you, my best friend. Our first night spent together, sitting inches apart, both too shy to touch, we talked and told stories into the wee hours of the night. For every shared view and experience we realized we had, I thought to myself, "This is my best friend. I will love him. This is it." My life began that night.
You showed me what love is. You gave me experiences I've never had, the kind of love I didn't know truly existed outside of my wildest dreams. You came in when everyone else had left. You loved me, when I believed I was no longer worthy of love. You accepted and welcomed my one year old son into your life, and love him as your own. You took my heart as it had grown cold and hard, and breathed life back in to it with a vengeance. You are my once in a lifetime love.
I vow to be your home, your place of comfort and calmness.
I vow to encourage and believe in you, especially when you don't believe in yourself.
I vow to choose you every single day--even when it's hard, because we can do hard things.
I vow to love you at your worst, and in those moments, to remind you of who you are at your best.
I vow to commit to growing with you, to build our dreams into realities, together.
I vow to never lose sight of how rare, special, and true this love is.
I vow to never take your love and your goodness for granted.
I take you as my husband, without fear or uncertainity that this is the greatest decision of my life.
Written for my Daniel on our final plane ride home through the night sky, on the fourth day of our marriage
I have hopes for our marriage; for our beautiful life together as it blends into one.
I hope for slow mornings and long kisses. For years that make us feel younger as we watch our children grow older. I hope to always be the first one you run to with a heavy heart; the only hand you reach for when you need steadying. I hope our dreams stay big, our love bigger; always bigger.
I see the many more cups of coffee, shared over laughter, then silence, as we work for our dreams in unison—the reminder of our biggest dream already come true sat encircling our left fourth fingers.
I see the house and the babes, the garden and the chickens in the yard, the birthdays and the anniversaries, the career achievements and the big vacations. But what I see in between those moments is what excites me most of all. The continuation of the life we already share. The friendship and the passion, the tenderness and the understanding, the stupid jokes and the teasing that always end in shoving and hugging, laughter splitting our sides.
May our shared moments continue to collect in the stacks of our minds, the lightness of their memory overshadowing any darkness that threatens to creep in. If only we could remember every moment, perfectly preserve every precious minute shared. Heaven knows there could never be enough with you.
I long for mornings we awake warm in our bed, a chill in the air nipping at our noses as we curl our toes into the sheets and press our bodies together for just one more minute. I long for days spent creating and sharing for ourselves, for our family. I long for nights spent around the table, gathered around good food shared among family and good friends.
Most of all, I hope we never grow weary or complacent in our love. Just as I vowed that day, I promise to never take for granted the love we’ve found, or the goodness of the man I married.
I hope for our marriage to be our highest priority and biggest adventure, always.
I hope for you to feel my love warming you, always.
With all my love,
Your wife, always.