recently i've been getting more and more questions about how i "do it". almost always accompanied by words that lift my heart up, but that i'm not always deserving of. it means so much to me every single time, and i want so badly to give back by providing some magic answer to every single question i receive. as i've turned to trying to impart some sort of wisdom via these simple posts, i'm finding i don't have much to say. because there's nothing special about what i am doing. there's nothing i'm doing that you don't already know how to do. my secret is that there is no secret. i just do it. every damn day. even as i fail, and screw up, and disappoint myself. i decided long ago what i wanted, and i decide every day that i still want it. and so every day, i get up, and i try again. you can do this, too. no matter how impossible or crazy it sounds. just decide to do it, and you'll figure out the rest as you go along. promise. it's both this simple, and this hard.
it's not how will we do it; it's will we do it?
my biggest obstacle, and i reckon it to be yours, also, has been my preconceptions about what i can or can't do, what's hard or impossible. i've heard all my life from so many mouths that math, or science, or medicine, is so hard. so much so, that i unconsciously accepted it as true. but there are two problems with this.
the first, is that these words merely express opinion. something completely subjective to the person saying them. a person different from yourself could deem something to be hard for any number of reasons; it does not mean it will be hard for you. secondly, and more importantly, is that hard does not equal bad. or impossible. hard is not something to be avoided. so what if it's hard?!
it’s ok to do hard things. it’s ok to struggle. it’s ok to not know. it's ok to fail. we fear these things, but they're essential to our growth. what’s really hard, the true struggle, is living a life you don’t want out of fear of failing to get the one you do.
you aren't ever going to be prepared, and you’re not going to find the answers for all of your questions on how to do it. no amount of pinteresting and reaching out to mentors can tell you what to do (trust me, i've tried). you have to just jump in and learn as you go. i can teach you how to study and use a planner, how to make your days more efficient, how to become an early riser and prioritize, but none of it will matter until you lose your fear. you have to stop thinking of all of the reasons why you can't do it. because you and i are no different. we're made of the same stuff.
and we can do hard things. you've got this, babe. now do the damn thing.
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